The Strength of Support: How Community Builds Resilience
(This article is written by Center Advisory Council member Garry Haraveth)
For the last month and a half, I’ve been experiencing a constant barrage of work-related issues, what I'd call 'hot messes', on almost a daily basis, unlike anything I’ve ever faced in the past. The run-up to the start of the school year is always peppered with a few challenges here and there, but this year was different. The pace was relentless, and the complexity of the issues was daunting.
And yet, through it all, I’ve been surrounded by colleagues whose professionalism, patience, and kindness carried me forward. My support team has played a crucial role in helping me navigate most of these challenges. Without them, I can honestly say the load would have felt unmanageable.
This has reminded me of something important: even when life feels overwhelming, having a strong support system makes all the difference.
We Don’t Thrive Alone
Too often, we’re taught to believe that strength means handling everything on our own. But in truth, real empowerment includes knowing when and how to lean on others.
Think of it this way: no matter how much planning and preparation go into a project, life always finds a way to surprise us. When things change, having people to lean on can be the difference between collapsing under the weight or moving through the storm with resilience.
For LGBTQ+ Individuals: Chosen Families and Affirming Communities
For LGBTQ+ individuals, the power of community is even more vital. Many of us have had to seek out or create chosen families, networks of friends, mentors, or community groups who affirm and uplift us when others may not.
Affirming spaces, whether it’s a Pride center, an LGBTQ+ support group, or simply one trusted friend, act as anchors during turbulent times. They remind us that we are not alone, that we are seen, and that together we can navigate challenges with courage.
Empowerment in Connection
Empowerment isn’t a solo act. It grows in connection. Here’s what I’ve learned from both my work and my coaching practice:
Strength in vulnerability. Asking for help takes courage, not weakness.
Resilience is shared. Communities weather storms more effectively when they work together than when individuals do so alone.
Gratitude matters. Recognizing and appreciating those who support us strengthens both sides of the relationship.
Belonging empowers. When we know we’re not alone, it’s easier to act with confidence and clarity.
Practical Ways to Build Resilience Through Support
Identify your circle. Who are the people you can call on in moments of stress?
Practice gratitude. A simple “thank you” can reinforce your connection and lift both you and the other person.
Be reciprocal. Offer your support in return — empowerment grows through mutual care.
Seek affirming spaces. If you don’t have the support you need, consider seeking it through community groups, organizations, or coaching.
Release the myth of going it alone. True strength isn’t isolation; it’s interdependence.
My Final Thoughts
Just as my colleagues sustained me through a chaotic season of challenges, we all need people to lean on. Empowerment doesn’t mean doing everything alone; it means recognizing that resilience grows in connection, community, and a sense of belonging.
This week, I invite you to reach out to someone who strengthens you. Let them know how much you value their presence in your life. In doing so, you’ll not only nurture your own resilience, but you’ll also help empower theirs.
Garry Haraveth serves on the Advisory Council of the Cortland LGBTQ Center. He is an educator, activist, and empowerment life coach, as well as the founder of Gay Life Journey (gaylifejourney.com).